I did a reach out to my facebook friend mamas because the kiddo has been up a crazy amount of time each night for I’m thinking like 10 days, he has been nursing nonstop all weekend long. (My only break from nursing is when I go to work…) It is confirmed, kids have a major sleep regression at this time. It is either that or the teeth make it worse.
Every night it is the same, I ask him if he wants to go to bed and he does, so we nurse right before bed (sleep specialists would say this is mistake #1) he doesn’t fall asleep on the boob, I put him in his crib. Now before this major sleep regression, he would stay in his crib for 3-4 hours depending, not that bad and then I would bring him into the bed with us. But now? Oh it varies between 45-90 minutes. And then, last night, he was up 3 times before 2 am, and then decided to comfort nurse for roughly an hour before I got to go back to sleep, but then we were still up probably another 2 or 3 times before the alarm clock went off at 6:40. And this comfort nursing business, I know it is comfort as he will fall asleep, I know he is asleep, and so I unlatch him and he screams bloody murder. And I’m like you were just asleep! And another thing that bugs me is my kiddo hates blankets on him, must be too much weight on his legs. It is getting colder here, and our room last night was pretty cold even for me (I’m a hot sleeper, flannel pajamas are my enemy) and so i would want to put the blankets on him too, oh but no, he would scream scream scream and like thrash his legs around. [side note: just saw that pajamas is a misspelled word, it has to be pyjamas and that to me just looks wrong – maybe that’s the American/Canadian difference?].
So I did tell the kiddo last night when he screamed for the billionth time after me trying to unlatch him in that hour long session, I said this is the last night, we start training tonight. Like I said previously (I think anyways) I am such a softie when making him cry it out. Crying it out is a very hotly debated topic too, you are damned if you do, damned if you don’t. We have tried it a few times there, I believe this would be attempt number 4. Each and every time prior, he has massive poops throughout it, it stresses him out. And these poops you can’t really leave him in them except if you are doing the full extinction method of sleep training it is hard to check if he has pooped or not until after he has fallen asleep, and then you walk into the room and wham you smell it, you attempt to change it without him waking (which is hard to do) and then half the times the cycle repeats. I think one night he had THREE poops…
You always feel you are doing a wrong thing when you hear them wail, but you know that you need longer stretches of sleep and yes part of it is he has associated going to sleep or rather getting to sleep by mommy all night long, and yes I do love it still, I just wish I would get like a 6 hour stretch of sleep.
I do know if we do it, I really have a strong feeling and this is where the hubby and I fight about (well among other things when you have a little kiddo screaming his head off what multiple issues over night) that he just wants to cut out all night feeds night one. And I’m like well if you are used to getting milk at certain points of the night you will wake up hungry or rather get the hunger cues. So I will continue feeding but at specified times throughout the night. Depending when he goes does, I will not feed him (or even enter) before 5 hours have gone by, and then it’ll probably be every two hours after that (I’m guessing maybe I’ll be lucky…) and then after a few nights of that, I will push it to 6 or 7 hours and then my hopes is that in due time he will drop them naturally. I am really done with the nursing business, so I probably will have to do the push myself.
Well, that was a lot longer than I thought I would type about it, and probably tomorrow I will type more and I think I have to get better at the run on sentences!